The Creating Your Destiny® – Building Attraction Seminar

 

Creating Your Destiny® Building Attraction Seminar

In the Creating Your Destiny® Building Attraction Seminar we will discuss ways to quickly build rapport and attraction.  Building Attraction is easy once you have master the art of building rapport.  Building rapport is an intrinsic part of communication.  The ability to build rapport is very important in the way we interact with those we meet. Rapport isn’t just important in building attraction, but is very important in your success in life. The ability to quickly build Rapport is intrinsic in interviewing, job performance, career success.   Learn to build connections and relationships quickly and easily.  The connections you build can often turn into a golden opportunity, such as a job offer, or promotion.

Have you ever known someone who makes friends wherever they go and do so in minutes? Some people seem to get rapport effectively and effortlessly. Building rapport is the first step in Building Attraction. Rapport can be defined as the establishment of an emotional connection and trust between people.

In this seminar, you will learn how to create instant rapport, recognize whether you have rapport, and how to successfully move the interaction along. Building rapport is the first step in Building Attraction. Powerful attraction can be built by understanding the need to be able to create sexual tension inside the rapport, otherwise you will find yourself in the “Friends Zone”. Being familiar with the nine seducer archetypes is a good place to start in learning how to create attraction and sexual tension in a relationship.  Understanding and then implementing the strategies learned in this seminar is the key to success in communications and relationships.

Whether you want to advance your career, get that promotion, or improve your social and love life, this seminar will help you make it happen!  Now is the time to Register!

 

Sales Seminars and Trainings Are Available in the DMV

While working for a large international engineering firm, I discovered that the people who made it to the top all seem to have a good sales background.  In other words, they brought in new business.  They were not people who actually worked in sales, but were people who were on the front lines.  They had day to day dealings with the Clients that we served and were the people who made things happen.  These people may not have been the top engineer in the company.  They were not your stereotypical engineering nerds as is often depicted in the movies.  What allow them to ascend to the top of the business, was their ability to work with Clients, glean their needs and satisfy those needs.  They made the Client’s goals, their goals.  They worked with a Win – Win attitude, they kept the Clients coming back for more.  Sales people are always in big demand, but people who are outstanding in determining a Client’s needs and not just delivering what the Client wanted, but produced 110% more, that really works.

People who have sales skills in a general sense are also in big demand. Not everyone is cut out to be really great at sales and also really, really love it. As I just noted, you don’t have to be in sales to benefit from the ability to influence and persuade. If you are in sales, it would be really great if.. with a little training, you find that you are able to create the sales career that you’ve only dreamed of… Would it be useful to be able to go into an interview confident that you will be able to build instant rapport and create a feeling of trust and liking in your Client? How about being able to better negotiate a really, really great sale? Would it be useful to you to be able to persuade and influence your boss and co-workers so that the working atmosphere is the best that you have ever experienced? How about… get recognized for the great job that you do?  Being a great salesperson is imminently important for everyone.  You sell yourself in many ways every day, like when you meet a new love interest, talk to the bank about a business loan, negotiate a labor agreement, or just ask for another bag of peanuts on a international flight. The ability to persuade is key to success, not only today, but tomorrow as life and work become more competitive.

You may find… learning all these things to be the best move of your life as you start on the path to success. Your finding success in your career that would not only take you to the top, but enjoy every step of the way, would be great, wouldn’t it. How about job satisfaction? You could, think about how good it would feel… having a job that you are good at and are greatly appreciated in doing. How would it feel to be told that… you are excelling at your job and then receive the pay raise that many only wish they had?

We provide seminars and trainings in many areas that will allow you to take your career to the next level. Because you are reading this article, It is clear that many of you are able to see that you are developing a desire to learn new skills which will greatly enhance your ability to influence people by:

  • building instant rapport with people that you meet.
  • learning how to read people (are they telling the truth or creating something in their mind)
  • learning how to present a proposal in a way that will be accepted
  • learning how to use language in a way that creates better understanding
  • learning how to set goals which you can obtain, perhaps effortlessly

These are just a few of the skills that you will learn in our trainings. Please register… now, and let us know about you’re interested in the Career Trainings. We will send you a notification of a training in this area. You may find, you’re interested in taking a NLP Practitioner Training which will provide you with the skills and certifications needed to advance.

Relationships & The LANGUAGES OF LOVE™

Relationships & The Languages of Love™ Part 1

How Do Relationships Fail?

There are lots of reasons Relationships fail.  The average person has many challenges in their lives which effect their ability to cope with the strain of maintaining a strong, healthy relationship.  We all have jobs, bills, perhaps children to complicate and make things tough in our relationship with our significant other (SO).  So how do you deal with these issues?  Too many people do not have a strategy for dealing with issues in their relationships.  Knowing that you need a way of handling problems that crop up, you may want to implement a plan of improving how you cope and maintain a good relationship.  My studies have shown that about 55% of marriages end in divorce.  This puts even more strain on the average person since two may not live as cheaply as one, but two living in separate homes with two mortgages, two sets of utilities, etc are definitely going to feel more financial pain than a couple.  It could mean the difference between having a good, comfortable retirement or struggling  to survive. Many of the remaining couples find that leaving the marriage would be financially and emotionally difficult,  so they stay in an unhappy relationship. Wouldn’t it be great if you could resolve problems in your marriage. How about re-kindle the spark that was there in the beginning, how would that feel? Would it be useful to know what it takes to keep your significant other in love with you?

Marriage doesn’t have to end in divorce.

Couples do not have to live unhappily together. The romance can be re-kindled, it only takes a little knowledge, training, and a lot of implementation to make things sizzle again.

What can you do to make your relationship sizzle?

Have you spent the last several years learning all the things that can make or break a marriage or relationship between two people in love? Some people have read the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, but reading the book and even understanding some of the content does not get you where you want to go. A person must begin the use what they have learned.  They must speak the love language of the person of interest which will allow communication of love and caring.

The average person could spend years learning how to be a good seducer, lover, and ultimately, spouse, and parent. Of course, everyone is given a manual on how to do all of that… Oh wait, I’m thinking about my car, it came with a manual. Your significant other came with a manual on proper diet, care, maintenance and so forth, or maybe not… The women in my life did not.  Taking care of your relationship requires as much love, knowledge, and skill as repairing a high tech automobile, flying an airplane, or parenting a child (properly). Unfortunately, the plane and car come with manuals and a relationship/marriage does not. It is no wonder relationships and marriages crash and burn. A person could all get depressed, get drunk (or do drugs), because it’s a lost cause…  or…   better yet, get busy and learn what it takes to ignite the love and caring that we all want and may not be getting.

Take charge of you life and your relationships.

Start learning the things that a person needs to do to make the SO love you more than life itself. It starts with you being the person that wants to make the other happy, and truly fulfilled. A good seduction requires much thought and planning. Do you have a plan?

Please register and inquire about upcoming Seminars on relationships. We offer the Languages of Love™ Seminar which is a good place to start with your planning a truly fulfilling relationship. We offer Early Bird Discounts, but have limited seating, so you will want to get on board early and take advantage of the great deals that we offer. If you have not already signed up for The Secret of Creating Your Destiny™ Seminar, now is a good time. You may find, the Secret to be the best seminar that you have ever attended. It will get you started on the path of a happy, healthy relationship.

Creating Powerful Attraction and Connection

Have you ever…. Really wanted to connect with that special someone and really wanted to build a connection? Perhaps you felt that something was holding you back or there was something that had to happen before you could actually be successful being with that person…

Learn How to Find’em…

Most people find love, romance, and relationships a mystery and perhaps out of their reach.  I am not talking about simply going out with someone that popped up from a four minute dating event or an online dating site. I am talking about meeting someone that you find incredibly attractive.  How do you meet that person that has Sole Mate Potential?  Wouldn’t it be useful to be able to identify the personality type that would have the traits that a person with your personality would really mesh with?  What hobbies, sports, activities would that person be interested in?   Where does that type of person like to go to meet people?  Would it be useful to learn how to get an understanding of their likes and dislikes? Would it be useful to have a few questions that would tell give you a good indication of that person’s potential as a real soul mate?

Learn How to Catch’em

Step two would be making a real connection with that person.  After you identify the archetype that you are attracted to, and meet that person, can you build attraction and rapport?  No attraction and rapport, and you will not likely have a date. How are you at getting instant rapport and connecting with people?  Would it be useful to be able to get instant rapport with that special someone?

The next big challenge could be turning that connection into a date.  Do you have the confidence and skills to turn a connection into a date?  I watch guys getting phone numbers when they could be making things happen right then and there.  Wouldn’t it be better to have a date that same day/night.  If you get the number, do you get the date?  If you are a woman, have you ever had a man get your number and never call you?  Would it be useful to be able to make it happen after you meet that special someone?

When you are on your date, are you comfortable with yourself, let alone comfortable with your date?  Do you feel confident when you are talking to that person or is there a vague sense of discomfort?  Would you be uncomfortable with a five year old that you are baby-sitting?  A five year old would not intimidate most people, so why would the potential love of your life make you uncomfortable?  What is it that makes a person uncomfortable with their date?  Would having unstoppable confidence in yourself and your ability to obtain the best possible results be of interest to you?

Learn How to Train’em

There’s the thought that many women are looking for a “Project”, a “Bad Boy” to rehabilitate…  Do you have the tools that can get a good result in your “Projects” or do you just plow ahead and hope for the best? Would it be useful to be able to assist the person that you love to embody all of the traits that will make you want to keep him or her for the long term?  Do you know what you really want in a lover?  Many people think that they do…

Learn How to Keep’em

Lastly a person must learn more about what a person must do to keep the person that they love, In Love, and With Them.  Too many relationships fail or limp along on (on life support).   Have you ever, known a couple that tolerated their marriage?  How about the spouse that has a substance abuse problem?  Are they a drunk or lush, or a victim of a bad relationship trying to reduce the pain of the relationship?  How about the people who have “died of a broken heart” when their relationship failed.  There are as many ways to suffer as there are ways to solve the problems in a relationship, or better yet, keep the relationship fresh, strong, and lasting.  Would it be useful to learn the secrets of what it takes to be a person that can keep the romance in a relationship, keep there lover coming hot for them and coming back for more… year after year.

People spend thousands of dollars a year on a new car that will soon be going to the recycle yard.  How much have you spent on the most important investment in your life?  Will your car be there when you are too old and feeble to care for yourself?  Who will you entrust your care to?  Do you have someone that you can count on to be there when you need them, loving and caring for you?

Creating Your Destiny® – Powerful Attraction and Connection Seminar

We have the Creating Powerful Attraction and Connection Seminar that will set you on a path to a fulfilling relationship with that “Soul Mate” that you’ve always wanted.  You might find, that… you’re signing up for this seminar and starting on a path to having romantic fulfillment is your best investment.  Register and let us know about you’re interested in taking this seminar and get control of your love life.

11 Reasons Why You Should Start Losing Weight – With CYD Health Seminars

 

Health and Fitness For a Better Life

Many people are having health and fitness issues, most of which could be attributed to being over weight. Wouldn’t it  be really great if one were able to create behavioral patterns that guide a person to want to eat less and exercise more?   Would it be useful to be able to improve you health by living an active lifestyle rather than a boring sedentary lifestyle?

Wellness

How about wellness instead of more pills, which are usually expensive and may damage your liver and other organs?  You may find… learning all these things to be the best move of your life as you start on the path to healthy/happy living free of stress and negative emotions.  Think about all of the things that you would really like to be doing that you put off because of being out of shape.  Some people may want to learn to dance, some may want to go mountain climbing/biking, or perhaps kayaking.  These are all fun things to do that require a strong healthy body that nearly everyone could and should have…  Whether you are 26 or 62, being in good health and good physical condition, is about the most important thing in your life.  Think about it.   How much would wealth benefit you, if you were not able to live a long healthy life and enjoy it?  Have you ever, notice how people who are active give off a really uplifting vibe.  It is easy to feel really, really great and positive about life when you have your health and vitality.  Negative emotions drain your energy and have an adverse effect on your body and health.  You can eliminate the negative emotions stored in your mind and body that have a negative effect on you and keep holding you back.

Attitude and Thinking

Changing the way you think and behave could be the  best move of your life as you start on the path to healthy/happy living free of stress and negative emotions.  Think about all of the things that you would really like to be doing, but don’t because of being out of shape.  Some people may want to learn to dance, some may want to go mountain climbing/biking, or perhaps kayaking.  A life with lots of outdoors fun would be better than laid up in bed with various health issues, would it.  These are all fun things to do that require a strong healthy body that nearly everyone could and should have…  Whether you are 26 or 62, being in good health and good physical condition, is about the most important thing in your life.  Think about how much wealth would benefit you, if you were not able to live a long healthy life and enjoy it?  Have you ever, notice how people who are active and feeling good, give off a really  great vibe.  When the endorphins kick in a person’s mental processes become more positive and powerful in improving health. It is easy to feel really, really great and positive about life when you have your health and vitality.  Negative emotions drain your energy and have an adverse effect on your body and health.  You can eliminate the negative emotions stored in your mind and body that have a negative effect on you and keep holding you back.

Health Seminars

We provide seminars in many areas that will allow you to take your health and mental outlook on life to the next level.  You can find that you are developing a desire to learn new behaviors, which will greatly enhance your health and vitality whether you are in your twenties or middle aged, or even a senior citizen…  We offer trainings, coaching, and therapy in many areas that will allow you to enjoy life better.  You will be able to: learn to enjoy becoming fit and healthier, make new friends faster, build deeper relationships with people that are important in your life, and live your life to the fullest by:

Take Action For Better Health

  • determining what negative emotions are creating behaviors which are not serving you
  • determining the events and negative emotions that can create a bad self image
  • eliminating negative emotions that can create a bad self image and install confidence
  • learning how to control your state (move from a negative state to one of empowerment
  • learning how to use language in a way that creates empowerment
  • learning how to set goals which you can obtain, perhaps effortlessly

Enjoy 11 Health Benefits From Better Life Style and Behaviors

  • gain confidence
  • have greater energy
  • less joint pain due to improved diet and less weight
  • enjoy pay raises and improvements in your work
  • better complexion
  • see, hear, feel improvements in relationships
  • have more acceptance and notice from other guys & gals
  • improved self image
  • improved sex drive and enjoyment
  • enjoy a more boisterous life, going more, enjoying more
  • enjoy more activities like skating, skiing, biking, sports

Please register and inquire about upcoming trainings.  We offer Early Bird Discounts, but have limited seating, so you will want to get on board early and take advantage of the great deals that we offer.  If you have not already signed up for The Secret of Creating Your Destiny® Seminar, now is a good time.  You may find, the Secret to be the best seminar that you have ever attended.  It will get you started on the path to Health and Fitness that everyone should be on, and enjoy!

 

The Secret of Creating Your Destiny® Seminar

Down thru the ages man has looked to the future and wondered what it held in store for him. People have always struggled to understand how their future was going to unfold. Many of the great thinkers have even struggled with the concept of Destiny.  Destiny is typically seen as being already written and going to happen no matter what… if that is true we are all stuck with what was written, be it good or bad.  But, wait, what if…  you can literally write your own Destiny!  Many believe that they are destined to always have to struggle to be the person that they would like to be, have the things that they would like to have, and do the things that they would like to do. Wouldn’t it be empowering if you could be in control of Creating Your Destiny®.  Would you create a life of poverty, unhappiness, and anxiety?  Or…   Perhaps you might imagine you are Creating Your Destiny® and a life full of abundance, happiness, fulfillment, and confidence in your future?  That would be totally cool.  Wouldn’t it?

The good news is that you don’t have to be one of those unfortunate people who have to take it as it comes. You now have the opportunity to learn The Secret of Creating Your Destiny® and create the life of your dreams…

How was the secret discovered?

The secret was developed over the centuries by many of the great thinkers of all time. Mankind has wrestled with the notion of destiny being created by the Gods and man being powerless to change it. Many of the great thinkers saw things differently. Research by greats like Aristotle, William James, Albert Einstein, Milton Erickson, Steven Hawking, and more recently by Dr. Tad James has created the realization that a person’s destiny can be created. We are not a slave to forces beyond our control. Mankind truly can control the direction in which their future goes…

The Power is Within… Every person has the power within them to change the direction, the path that they are on… One can, tap the powerful resources within and start a journey which is enriching, satisfying, and totally fulfilling.

You’re taking The Secret of Creating Your Destiny® Seminar demonstrates your strong desire to have the opportunity, the vision, and the resources to get your life on track. Perhaps you want that perfect job, more financial security, the perfect relationship, or just the ability to make friends quickly.

• Do what you’ve always wanted to do

• Have what you’ve always wanted

• Be the person that you’ve wanted to be

• Create what you want in life

• Create your destiny (and live it!)

In The Secret of Creating Your Destiny® Seminar you will discover how to eliminate the things that block you from Creating Your Destiny® and allow you to be the person that you want to be, have the things that you’ve always wanted, and do the things that you’ve always wanted to do. Imagine, being totally transformed in a short period of time into a person that is empowered rather than a “victim” of events. Once a person is utilizing The Secret of Creating Your Destiny® techniques for empowerment, the future becomes what you truly want… That would be truly empowering and beneficial to you and those closest to you, wouldn’t it?  Check out the coming seminars and start CREATING YOUR DESTINY!

Senior Couples

Although, the odds on a couple staying happily married are not that good. By the time a couple are into their “Golden Years” it would appear that they are happily married and will stay that way. Sometimes that is true, sometimes not so much.

What’s just as bad as divorce is that the fact the that remaining married couples are not necessarily happy in their marriage. Many of the remaining couples find that leaving the marriage would be financially and emotionally difficult. Wouldn’t it be great if you could resolve problems in your marriage. How about re-kindle the spark that was there in the beginning, how would that feel? Would it be useful to know what it takes to keep your significant other in love with you? Can you see value in the ability to capture the type of relationship you had in your youth?

Marriage doesn’t have to end in divorce. Marriage doesn’t have to lose it’s romance and excitement. Couples do not have to live unhappily together. The romance can be re-kindled. The family can remain together and that’s a big plus during the Holidays. Can you, imagine having to share the kids with the other spouse instead of everyone being together during the Holidays? Going to grandma’s house is even better when grandpa is there with grandma, isn’t it? Have you heard any of your friends talk about having to divide their time up during the Holidays because the family is split up?

Do you know all the things, all the things that can make or break a marriage or relationship between two people in love? Do you know about the three stages that children and grandchildren go through before becoming adults and how to deal with their changing behaviors? The average person could spend years learning how to be a good seducer, lover, and ultimately, spouse, and parent. Of course, everyone is given a manual on how to do all of that. Oh wait, I’m thinking about my car, it came with a manual. Your significant other came with a manual on proper diet, care, maintenance and so forth, or maybe not… Taking care of your relationship requires as much love, knowledge, and skill as repairing a high tech automobile, flying an airplane, or parenting a child (properly). Unfortunately, the plane and car come with manuals and a relationship/marriage/child does not. It is no wonder relationships and marriages crash and burn. We could all get depressed, get drunk (or do drugs), because it’s a lost cause… Or not. Perhaps one could, learn all the things necessary for a good marriage and keep it strong, happy, and lasting. How will you, enjoy your golden years with the person you love and the children that you had together. You could, learn the secrets to eliminate bad anchors and behaviors that cause a couple to grow apart.

I know that you know that giving up is not a proper response to this dilemma. After all, it would be better (and a lot cheaper) to build a relationship/marriage that lasts and loves…. Wouldn’t it? Would you like to be able to:

Determine your significant other’s love strategy and fulfil it making your relationship stronger
Release the negative emotions that are creating behaviors which are not serving you in your relationships
Detemine which seducer type that you naturally are and enhance those seducer characteristics making yourself more desirable in your relationship
Releasee the negative emotions that had created a bad self image and co-dependency in your relationship
Release the negative emotions that can create a bad self image and create confidence in yourself
Learn how to control your state (move from a negative state to one of empowerment)
Learning how to use language in a way that communicates your love and understanding
Communicate your love to your lover without actually speaking of love (your lover will know how you feel about them without words)
Release the negative emotions that are having a negative effect on your health
When you take The Secret of Creating Your Destiny™ Seminar, you will eliminate much of what is holding you back in your relationships. It is the foundation on which to start Creating Your Destiny™.

Please register and inquire about upcoming trainings. We offer Early Bird Discounts, but have limited seating, so you will want to get on board early and take advantage of the great deals that we offer. If you have not already signed up for The Secret of Creating Your Destiny™ Seminar, now is a good time. You may find, the Secret to be the best seminar that you have ever attended. It will get you started on the path of a happy, healthy relationship.

Have you ever…. Really wanted to connect with that special someone and really wanted to build a connection? Perhaps you felt that something was holding you back or there was something that had to happen before you could actually be successful being with that person…

There are many challenges to staying happily married and you may find the following program is full of powerful techniques for strengthening your marriage and even dealing with your kids…

Train’em…

There’s the thought that many women are looking for a “Project”, a “Bad Boy” to rehabilitate… Do you have the tools that can get a good result in your “Projects” or do you just plow ahead and hope for the best? Would it be useful to be able to assist the person that you love to embody all of the traits that will make you want to keep him or her for the long term? Do you know what you really want in a lover? Many people think that they do… How would you… enjoy being able to assist your lover in becoming the person that you really can bond with, really love.

Keep’em…

Lastly a person must learn more about what a person must do to keep the person that they love, In Love, and With Them. Too many relationships fail or limp along on (on life support). Have you ever, known a couple that tolerated their marriage? How about the spouse that has a substance abuse problem? Are they a drunk or lush, or a victim of a bad relationship trying to reduce the pain of the relationship? How about the people who have “died of a broken heart” when their relationship failed. Would you expect a person that is happy and healthy in a strong loving relationship? Would you expect that person to be happy and healthy in a miserable relationship? There are as many ways to suffer as there are ways to solve the problems in a relationship, or better yet, keep the relationship fresh, strong, and lasting. Would it be useful to learn the secrets of what it takes to be a person that can keep the romance in a relationship, keep their lover coming, hot for them and coming back for more… year after year.

People spend thousands of dollars a year on a new car that will soon be going to the recycle yard. How much have you spent on the most important investment in your life? Will your car be there when you are too old and feeble to care for yourself? Who will you entrust your care to? Do you have someone that you can count on to be there when you need them, loving and caring for you?

We have the Find’em, Catch’em, Train’em, and Keep’em Seminar that will set you on a path to a fulfilling relationship with the “Soul Mate” that you’ve always wanted. You might find, that… you’re signing up for this seminar and starting on a path to having romantic fulfillment is your best investment. Register and let us know about you’re interested in taking this seminar and get control of your love life.

Middle Aged Couples & Relationships

Sadly enough, the odds on a couple staying happily married are not that good.  Approximately, half of all marriages end in divorce.   Most of the time, the divorce is not amicable.  Couple with children could spend a lot of time during and after a divorce fighting over the kids.  Wouldn’t it be great to learn how to influence your kids without just answering their “Why?” with Because, I’m the mommy/daddy…

What’s just as bad as divorce is that the  remaining married couples are not necessarily happy in their marriage.  Many of the remaining couples find that leaving the marriage would be financially and emotionally difficult.  Wouldn’t it be great if you could resolve problems in your marriage.  How about re-kindle the spark that was there in the beginning, how would that feel?  Would it be useful to know what it takes to keep your significant other in love with you?

Marriage doesn’t have to end in divorce.  Couples do not have to live unhappily together.  The romance can be re-kindled.  The family can remain together and that’s a big plus during the Holidays.  Can you, imagine having to share the kids with the other spouse instead of everyone being together during the Holidays.

Do you know all the things, all the things that can make or break a marriage or relationship between two people in love?  Do you know about the three stages that children go through before becoming adults and how to deal with their changing behaviors?  The average person could spend years learning how to be a good seducer, lover, and ultimately, spouse, and parent.  Of course, everyone is given a manual on how to do all of that…  Oh wait, I’m thinking about my car, it came with a manual.  Your significant other came with a manual on proper diet, care, maintenance and so forth, or maybe not…  Taking care of your relationship requires as much love, knowledge, and skill as repairing a high tech automobile, flying an airplane, or parenting  a child (properly).  Unfortunately, the plane and car come with manuals and a relationship/marriage/child does not.  It is no wonder relationships and marriages crash and burn. We could all get depressed, get drunk (or do drugs), because it’s a lost cause…  Or not.  Perhaps one could, learn all the things necessary for a good marriage and keep it strong and happy.

I know that you know that giving up is not a proper response to this dilemma.  After all, it would be better (and a lot cheaper) to build a relationship/marriage that lasts and loves…. Wouldn’t it?  Would you like to be able to:

  • Determine your significant other’s love strategy and fulfill it making your relationship stronger
  • Determine which seducer archetype that you naturally are and enhance that characteristic making yourself more desirable in your relationship
  • Release the negative emotions that are creating behaviors which are not serving you in your relationship
  • Release the negative emotions that could have created a bad self image and co-dependency in your relationships
  • Release the negative emotions that can create a bad self image and create confidence in yourself
  • Learn how to control your state (move from a negative state to one of empowerment)
  • Learning how to use language in a way that communicates your love and understanding
  • Communicate your love to your lover without actually speaking of love (your lover will know how you feel about them without words)

When you take The Secret of Creating Your Destiny®Seminar, you will eliminate much of what is holding you back in your relationships.  It it the foundation on which to start Creating Your Destiny®.

Please register and inquire about upcoming trainings.  We offer Early Bird Discounts, but have limited seating, so you will want to get on board early and take advantage of the great deals that we offer.  If you have not already signed up for The Secret of Creating Your Destiny®Seminar, now is a good time.  You may find, the Secret to be the best seminar that you have ever attended.  It will get you started on the path of a happy, healthy relationship.

Have you ever…. Really wanted to connect with that special someone and really wanted to build a connection? Perhaps you felt that something was holding you back or there was something that had to happen before you could actually be successful being with that person…

There are many challenges to staying happily married and you may find the following program is full of powerful techniques for strengthening your marriage and even dealing with your kids…
Train’em…

There’s the thought that many women are looking for a “Project”, a “Bad Boy” to rehabilitate…  Do you have the tools that can get a good result in your “Projects” or do you just plow ahead and hope for the best? Would it be useful to be able to assist the person that you love to embody all of the traits that will make you want to keep him or her for the long term?  Do you know what you really want in a lover?  Many people think that they do…

Keep’em…Lastly a person must learn more about what a person must do to keep the person that they love, In Love, and With Them.  Too many relationships fail or limp along on (on life support).   Have you ever, known a couple that tolerated their marriage?  How about the spouse that has a substance abuse problem?  Are they a drunk or lush, or a victim of a bad relationship trying to reduce the pain of the relationship?  How about the people who have “died of a broken heart” when their relationship failed.  There are as many ways to suffer as there are ways to solve the problems in a relationship, or better yet, keep the relationship fresh, strong, and lasting.  Would it be useful to learn the secrets of what it takes to be a person that can keep the romance in a relationship, keep there lover coming hot for them and coming back for more… year after year.

People spend thousands of dollars a year on a new car that will soon be going to the recycle yard.  How much have you spent on the most important investment in your life?  Will your car be there when you are too old and feeble to care for yourself?  Who will you entrust your care to?  Do you have someone that you can count on to be there when you need them, loving and caring for you?

We have the Find’em, Catch’em, Train’em, and Keep’em Seminar that will set you on a path to a fulfilling relationship with that “Soul Mate” that you’ve always wanted.  You might find, that… you’re signing up for this seminar and starting on a path to having romantic fulfillment is your best investment.  Register and let us know about you’re interested in taking this seminar and get control of your love life.

Young Couples (Married)

Sadly enough, the odds on a couple staying happily married are not that good. Approximately, half of all marriages end in divorce. Most of the time, the divorce is not amicable. What’s just as bad is that the remaining married couples are not necessarily happy in their marriage. Many of the remaining couple find that leaving the marriage would be financially and emotionally difficult. Wouldn’t it be great if you could resolve problems in your marriage. How about re-kindle the spark that was there in the beginning, how would that feel? Would it be useful to know what it takes to keep your significant other in love with you?

Marriage doesn’t have to end in divorce. Couples do not have to live unhappily together. The romance can be re-kindled.

Do you know all the things, all the things that can make or break a marriage or relationship between two people in love? Do you know about the three stages that children go through before becoming adults and how to deal with their changing behaviors? The average person could spend years learning how to be a good seducer, lover, and ultimately, spouse, and parent. Of course, everyone is given a manual on how to do all of that… Oh wait, I’m thinking about my car, it came with a manual. Your significant other came with a manual on proper diet, care, maintenance and so forth, or maybe not… Taking care of your relationship requires as much love, knowledge, and skill as repairing a high tech automobile, flying an airplane, or parenting a child (properly). Unfortunately, the plane and car come with manuals and a relationship/marriage does not. It is no wonder relationships and marriages crash and burn. We could all get depressed, get drunk (or do drugs), because it’s a lost cause…

I know that you know that giving up is not a proper response to this dilemma. After all, it would be better (and a lot cheaper) to build a relationship/marriage that lasts and loves…. Wouldn’t it? Would you like to be able to:

Determine your significant other’s love strategy and fulfill it making your relationship stronger
Determine which seducer archetype that you naturally are and enhance that characteristic making yourself more desirable in your relationship
Release the negative emotions that are creating behaviors which are not serving you in your relationship
Release the negative emotions that could have created a bad self image and co-dependency in your relationships
Release the negative emotions that can create a bad self image and create confidence in yourself
Learn how to control your state (move from a negative state to one of empowerment)
Learning how to use language in a way that communicates your love and understanding
Communicate your love to your lover without actually speaking of love (your lover will know how you feel about them without words)
When you take The Secret of Creating Your Destiny™ Seminar, you will eliminate much of what is holding you back in your relationships. It it the foundation on which to start Creating Your Destiny™.

Please register and inquire about upcoming trainings. We offer Early Bird Discounts, but have limited seating, so you will want to get on board early and take advantage of the great deals that we offer. If you have not already signed up for The Secret of Creating Your Destiny™ Seminar, now is a good time. You may find, the Secret to be the best seminar that you have ever attended. It will get you started on the path of a happy, healthy relationship.

Love Strategies 2/4 – The Courtship

 

Love Strategies 2/4 – The Courtship

Love Strategies – Love Languages and how they effect a relationship.

In our discussion on Love Strategies, we determined that after the initial courtship phase is over, the couple starts to conserve energy by slacking in the relationship.  Over a period of time, as the romance slowly begins to disappear…


The relationship gradually becomes a little stale as each one begins to show their love in their own Representational System.  The “Visual” will stop using words or physical touch and body language to convey love as in the early months of the romance.  The “Auditory” or “Kinesthetic” person will neglect to open doors, think about birthdays and bring a gift home to the spouse (it could be a small gift), take the other out to have a good time, etc.  Let’s look at the characteristics demonstrated under each of the Rep Systems during the courtship:

Visual

The “Visual” guy shows up with flowers, buys her dinner, opens her door to the car, the restaurant, and is generally very attentive. The “Visual” female will like to be taken places, she will typically be a smart dresser, because looking good is important to her. She will list the guys looks or “look” as important in her selection of who she will or will not date. She will usually be slender (perhaps a “Twiggy”) or she may have a lot of difficulty with being overweight. “Visuals” are not as connected to their bodies as much as the other representational systems, so they will be a little more extreme in handling weight going from very slender to very overweight. “Visuals” may not be as talented on the dance floor as the “Auditory” or “Kinesthetic” person. A “Visual” will use predicates like: See you later, See what I’M saying, Clearly, Lay your eyes on this… paint a picture, what a sight to behold, what a sight for sore eyes, etc.  When you take the NLP Practitioner Training you will learn how to determine a persons Strategies for Love, Decision Making, etc.  This new knowledge can help you in your relationships, career, business, and life in general.  In this article we are primarily focused on the your relationships and relating.  With that in mind, let’s look at the how a person’s behaviors are influenced by their representational systems.

Auditory

He may write her a poem or song and read or sing it to her.  He will say words of appreciation for this reason or that reason, compliment her on her good looks, hair, smile,… If he’s a little more savvy than average, he will let her know that he thinks that she is smart or has some irresistible quality that is very sexy. The latter is a wiser approach since these qualities will more likely become enhanced with time, whereas her looks (the first group of qualities) will fade. A smart woman will want a man who is interested in more than her looks. The predicates that the “Auditory” will use are: loud, clear, hear, resonate, hush, roar, make music, harmonize, tune-in/out, Talk to you later (as opposed to See you later), Clear as a bell, rings a bell, Give me your ear, loud and clear, etc.

Kinesthetic

He will probably be quick to want to hug her, kiss her, and generally be all “warm and fuzzy” with her. The “Kinesthetic” will stand closer to another person. The kinesthetic person may stand a little to close for the comfort of a Visual. Visuals tend to want to stand back so they can see the “whole” person, after all, looks are important… Right? The “Visual” may feel less comfortable with the “up close and personal” or “Touchy/Feely” way of interacting with another.  The difference between the visual and kinesthetic person in comfort space is more extreme since the visual likes a lot more space so they can see the whole person and get a good look at them…  Invading a person’s space is a good way to break rapport.

The Rep Systems and how they apply in communicating caring and love.

It is a good idea to emphasize that everyone is unique in many ways and are not just a “Visusal” , “Auditory” , or “Kinesthetic”. Everyone will tend to operate with a combination of the rep systems. They will, however, have a rep system that they prefer and they will prefer the other rep systems to a lessor degree. A “Visual” can find hugs and the “warm and fuzzy or touchy feely” to be nearly as important as the other forms of courtship and displays of love. Hugs may be important, but there is only ONE number one Rep System which is absolutely necessary in order for the person to feel loved. Take away the number one way to perceive love and all of the hugs and warm and fuzzy in the world will not convey love to the Visual. The “Auditory” person may love Hugs also. He/she may want to say that hugs are just as important as being told how smart they are… good looking they are… cool they are… etc. The bottom line is that is that you could take the “Auditory” to the Super Bowl, buy them a $10K necklace, and they will not perceive that they are loved if you never call them to talk to them. Money does not talk in the case of the “Auditory”. They need to hear their significant other’s voice. A gift will not cut it like it would with a “Visual”.  The “Visual” may feel that buying a love interest an expensive gift is going to score big points. That is true for another “Visual”, but the “Auditory needs to talk” and the “Kinesthetic” needs to be able to get close and touch, hug, the person of their affection.  This applies to family relationships such as between parents and children.  This is about how people perceive that they are loved generally, not just how lovers perceive love and affection in a romantic relationship. The father that sends gifts every Christmas and birthday, will not be seen as loving or caring if he is not calling on the phone (auditory) or visiting the kids (kinesthetic). Many fathers will be away from home on business and alienate their wife and kids by now fulfilling their love strategy. The man who works all of the time and leaves his “kinesthetic” wife at home alone with no one to talk to or touch may find soon that he is divorced after a few years of deprivation on the part of the wife.  It just occurred to me, that one couple I know may have had their break up precipitated, in part, due to her being at work while he (Kinesthetic) was at home alone.

Not communicating caring and love in the other’s Rep System/Love Language can be disastrous.

Speaking of divorce, a friend told me that his wife had requested, (possibly subtly  demanded) that he write her a poem.  I told him that if he wanted to stay married, he should get busy and find a poem on the internet and customize it for her.  A few months later, he was divorced.  He either did not believe that she was serious, or did not care…  Please keep in mind that I may give an example of a how a man will behave and that does not exclude a woman from behaving or responding, as the case may be, in the same way, in the same context.  Poems are a very good means of communicating love and caring to some people.  Some poets are known as being consummate seducers.  Women are particularly found of a very seductive poem, especially one written with them in mind.

So, we are back to the young woman and her mid-life crisis.

The young woman begins to realize that she is missing something in her relationship (Love Strategy – Not Fullfilled!!!) The romance is not there, the appreciation may not be there, she doesn’t feel loved… and the biological clock is ticking. She is coming up on or already 28 years old and her marriage is not what it should be for the long haul. At this point, she may develop a wandering eye and may look for the love and appreciation elsewhere… Times are fixing to be tough for the man. Oh yes, he may not feel loved or appreciated either. Let’s say that one is a “Visual” and the other is “Auditory”

  • She never says things about how lucky she is to have such a great man…  He never tells her how good she looks…
  • She paints a picture of them hugging on the beach. He isn’t gushing on how great the painting looks or even pays much attention to it.
  • Other women are bragging about how awesome their guy is, she is silent.
  • She goes shopping and buys him things that she overheard him say he wanted.  He is not that excited or showing much appreciation for her thoughtfulness.
  • He bought her an expensive microwave for Christmas.  She bought him Speedo briefs that she thought would look totally hot on him.
  • He doesn’t want to go out. He wants to watch the ball game. – She wants to go to a bed and breakfast (with Heart shaped hot tub) for Valentine’s Day.
  • He makes little comments about her adding five – ten pounds to her 5’-5” frame…
  • He tells her she is better looking than most of the graduating class.  She tells him that
  • He writes her a love poem and reads it to her with great enthusiasm. She did not respond all that positively because she was looking at something.  She wanted him to spend some time shopping or creating some little gift for her.

Notice in the above that they conveyed their love in the Rep System that is most familiar to them eg. Love Poem vs Painting of us on beach. You will also note that the other party did not perceive love in any of the above even though they were looking for love and appreciation.

Slacking in the Relationship is Toxic

Here is the problem each one is conserving energy by only utilizing their Primary Rep System when dealing with the spouse. When they were courting, they each went out of their way to do everything possible to impress their love interest. In doing that, they inadvertently included all of the requirements for showing their love to their prospective mate.  This required what to them may have seemed like a lot of effort.  In order to win their mate over they utilized All of the Rep Systems to demonstrate that they cared for the love of their life. Soon after the honeymoon things settle down into a relatively mediocre excuse for a relationship. How mediocre the relationship is depends on the couple. The marriages where the couple do not fulfill the other’s Love Strategy will begin to fail. The marriage is very likely to end in divorce after a few years. The young woman is facing a situation where she needs a real man in her life… She needs a man that fulfills her Love Strategy till death do they part, not till the honeymoon is over. The man needs a woman who appreciates him, shows him that she loves him more today than she did yesterday, and she supports him in his endeavors.  The woman will feel the same, feeling more and more loved will score points with both the man and woman.

The woman’s mid-life crisis will generally go from about 28 to 32 years of age.

When a woman is in her early twenties, she has lots of time to think about dating, romance, having a good time (partying in some cases), and the biological clock is not ticking. Generally speaking her life is likely to be quite good in many ways. She is considered to be at her peak physically and has time on her side. By the time she is 32, she will probably be single and will be looking for someone that will fulfill her Love Strategy. He will be disenchanted with marriage and may be gun shy about getting serious again anytime soon. She may have kids. He may have alimony and child support. They may both feel that life sucks, depending on how well they can adjust to being “back in the meat market”.  Much unhappiness and pain can be avoided by knowing about the Love Strategies and then taking action to fulfill them.  Knowing a person’s love strategy would help ensure that you are able to connect with that person on a deep level without saying that you care.

NLP Strategies are useful in Business, Career, Sales and Communications.

NLP Strategies are a interesting topic with lots of applications in business, career, sales, and communications generally speaking. You might want to, take a seminar or training which will give you more skills in using NLP Strategies in a multitude of situations which will empower you in life and relationships.